So i have been having some discussions of late that have been making me wonder.  Where do you go to make a new friend?  Where were you when you made the friend you have?  Is the friend you have the best friend for you to have?

This question used to be easy.  You'd be at school and you'd turn around and there someone would be.  Someone that you wanted to be friends with or that you didn't.  It didn't really matter as you would have a friend, a new choice.  It was there.  This also seemed to happen in two waves so that you have your grade/high school friends and then you have your university friends.  For the most part, during these times you will make some friends that will stay with you always.

   I have these.  In spades i have these.  Mostly because i want them.  Of course i want them, i only make friends that are worthy of me.  (ok, there are exceptions but we don't need to go into that here, now do we?)  But what about after that, where do you go then?  

   To your workplace, of course, you plumb the depths of the areas where you spend the most time.  And after i moved to Vancouver i was relatively alone for a while, until i met some people from work, and then that branched out and all of a sudden i have a group of friends. My closest friend ever managed to come out of this, something i am thankful for most days.  (yes, most)  I did manage to meet a few in other places and hang onto them as well.  So things grew.  Luckily, the other places tended to be friends that i had been introduced to through some other more foreign friend type industry.  Lucky.  I am just plain lucky. 

   But a friend was asking me tonight how to meet more people. She doesn't know how.  It has always just happened for her, how does she make it happen now that she has this need.  I couldn't' answer her.  I don't know.  I don't know what you do to just go out and make friends.  By the time we are adults it becomes a lot more difficult to make friends.  Then something else happened later and i began revisiting some thoughts i have on occasion.  

   While i have a great group of friends here, i still have some needs that aren't being met, or some needs that tend to be too much for the friends that i have to be able to meet them.  What do i do about that?  My first thought, is to go out and find some friends that will meet that need.  But where do i go for those?  Superstore?  I don't think they have them in my size there.  Or something.  I just don't have a good answer for this question.   I have all the normal answers, you can take a course or go to coffee shops, or whatever.  But it takes time and effort and a lot of luck to be able to make this work.

   Hell, maybe i will just find a girlfriend and forget about friends all together (isn't that what a friend does when they meet someone new after all?). 

   I don't know.  What i do know, is after this weekend at my parents, i am going to need my friends more than ever.  I hope i haven't alienated them too much with this entry. 

Come on guys, i love every one of you except for  one.  Truly.   (that one will remain nameless, but yes, it could be you.)

heee.

night.